*Why we’re fated to be lonely? *(but it’s ok)
There’re feel more shames to confess to make that now we’re lonely. The basic assumptionion is that no respectable person could ever feel isolated unless maybe they just move country or widowed. yet in truth high degree of loneliness is an inexorable part of being sensitive, intelligent human.
It’s built-in feature of a complex existence. They’re severl big reason for this.Much of what we need recognized and confirmed by others, a lot of what it would be extremely comforting to share is going to be disturbing tosociety at large. Many of the idea in the recesses of our minds are too odd,contrary,subtle or alarming to be safely revealed to anyone else. We face a choice between honest and acceptability and understandably mostly choose the latter. It takes a lot of energy to listen to another person and enter smpathetically into their experience. We shouldn’t blame others for their failure to focus on who we are. They may want to meet us but we should accept the energy with which they will keep the topic of their own lives at the center of conversationWe must all die alone, which really means, that our pain is for us alone to endure. Others can throw us words of encouragement, but in every life, we are out on the ocean drowning in the swell and others, even the nice ones, are standing on the shore, waving cheerily.It’s deeply unlikely that we will ever find someone on exactly the same page of the soul as us. We will long for utter congroo. But there will be constant dissonance because we appeared on the earth at different times are the product of different families and experience and just not made of the same fabric. So they won’t be thinking just the same as us on coming cinema and looking out at the night sky just when we want them to say something high flown and beautiful, they perhaps be remembering a painfully banal an untimely detail from an area of domestic life or vice cersa.
It is almost comic.The problem is sure to get worse, the more thoughtful and perceptive we are. There will simply be less people like us around. It’s Romantic myth;
loneliness truly is the tax we have to pay to atone for a certain complexity of mind.Enduring loneliness is almost invariably better than suffering the compromises of false community. Loneliness is simply price we may have to pay for holding on to a sincere, ambitious view of whatcompanionship must and could be.